Life Doesn’t Get Easier… You Learn to Handle Hard Stuff Better.
We all wait in life for things to get easier…
I just need to get through this busy season and then everything will be easier… I just need to get through this workout and everything will get easier, I just need to get through taxes and everything will be easier.. I just need to get through this hard season with my kids and things will get easier… I just need to get to summer and my life will get so much easier…
It’s what we do.. we wait for things to get easier.
Something we need to realize is .. it will never get easier.
What happens is, you handle hard better.
Most people think it’s going to get easier… life is going to get easier… our job is going to get easier, motherhood is going to get easier, school will get easier, our marriage or relationship will get easier…
It never gets easier. What happens is, you become someone who handles hard stuff better.
This is a mental shift that has to occur in all of us. It has to… because if you go around waiting for things to get easier in life, it’s never going to. And then what happens? We end up in this miserable state of mind thinking life is too hard and we pity ourselves. We give up. We walk away.
And we compare. We fall into the vicious comparison trap and think that everyone else has it easier. How is she achieving her dreams? Why does her marriage look so easy? Why do her kids mind themselves and listen? How is she getting those grades?
The truth is, they don’t. It’s not. That’s not their reality either. Social media paints this pretty picture in our minds and we put up this mental block as to what we can’t achieve comparing to others, when in reality NONE of what they have achieved matters in YOUR life. Your hard is your’s to own. Just like your achievements are your’s to own as well.
And getting better at handling the hard is also something we all have to take ownership of.
Think back to a situation you faced 5 or 10 years ago and how hard that felt. You got through it right? You came of it with more perspective, more grace, a firmer foundation. Or maybe you didn’t handle it all that well and you know that if faced with that same situation today you would handle it differently. You’d save that friendship. You’d have that conversation a little differently. You’d figure out how to be slow to speak, quick to listen, slower to anger. You’d choose a different path.
So reflecting on who you were and how you’ve transformed over the years a vital and pivotal part of growth. It’s important to reflect back on ways God has held you and carried you through your hardships when you’re doubting him or doubting yourself in your current season of hard.
The truth is any meaningful pursuit in life, if you want to be successful, it goes to the people that handle hard well. Iron sharpens iron. Those are the people that get the stuff they want.
So don’t get discouraged through a hard time. I know that’s easier said than done. But if it’s hard, it’s suppose to be hard. And don’t wait for it to be easier.
Make yourself someone that handles hard well. And then whatever comes at you, you’re going to be great.
You’re going to achieve that goal whatever it may be. And you’re going to reflect back on this hard time and let it sharpen you for the next hard time.. because it absolutely will happen.
Take some time to reflect on your past hard times and how you’ve grown. How you learned from that time to grow and be better today. Feel that sense of accomplishment and gratitude for your strength you harvested to get through it. Be proud. Be grateful we serve a God who knows exactly what we need to get through every hardship we will ever face.
Tay
