15 years in the wellness industry and I have something to get off my chest….
The “secret” to getting healthier isn’t macros. Sorry. It’s not how many days a week you workout, how much water you consume, how many calories you restrict, or how much you meal-prep.
All of those are extremely helpful, and you’ll get fitness professionals feeding you their tips and companies promising results with “this fix.”
But the key to everything. The glue to holding it altogether… is your mindset. Getting out of your own head. Stop the negative talk and figure out WHY you’re getting in the way of where you want to be. Who you want to be.
Everything we think or feel is deep-rooted in the way we’ve been conditioned. Whether that’s past trauma, our childhood, a jerk-coach, failed friendships, or the social media comparison trap, our mindset to actually take action to MAKE the change is THE stopping point for most people.
Until you take time to reflect on what is holding you back or what negative self-talk are you subconsciously telling yourself, you can’t move forward in your health journey until you face it.
Here are my tips to help take steps forward:
1. Slow down and figure out what specifically you’re telling yourself that’s subconsciously holding you back.
For example, I was telling myself “I’m not enough,” and “You’ll never be loved.” This took some deep, hard, soul searching. But when I peeled back the layers of my excuses, everything came back to these two phrases.
2. Once you identify what you’re telling yourself, it’s time to figure out WHY these phrases are subconsciously rolling through your mind. Face the past. Walk through those hard moments or trials. Be real about how hard they were and what they did to you. How they conditioned you to think today.
3. Forgive what needs to be forgiven. Forgiveness is for you. And you need to do it over and over again every single time you think of that mis-treatment. Let it go. It’s not your weight to bear. Give it to God. Release it.
4. Replace those phrases with healthy statements. I am enough. I’ve always been enough. I’m a daughter of the King. I’m loved because He is love. I’m loved because I deserve love.
If you need help, ask the closest person to you to help you flip those statements around.
I always ask myself… what would I say to my daughter? How would I speak to her?
Put those new phrases all over your house. On the background of your phone. On sticky notes on your mirror.
5. Step forward with confidence and a lighter approach to your goals. Forget the outcome and focus on the process. At the end of the day, no one can hold your hand and force you to do anything. You have to develop that innate drive to WANT to improve. And until you identify what’s holding you back time and time again and transform your thought process, you’ll continue to get stuck.
I hope this speaks to you. I hope you give yourself the grace you desperately deserve. I hope you ease up and start speaking life into yourself. I hope you surround yourself with people who build you up and put up healthy boundaries around those who don’t.
Tay
